Can Best Friends Turn into Great Lovers?

...and even more importantly: can you turn a long term friendship into a succesful relationship?


I've been reading quite a lot about changing the "status" from "best friends" to "lovers"... over the past year my life took a rather unpleasent form.  My marriage was on the verge of collapse - which eventually, it did - and my heart started to bounce every time I met and went out with a certain someone.

And that certain someone is my best friend... until one day , at a concert , when he kissed me. I knew what I felt but I wasn't ready to admit it. Almost a month passed without anything else happening but we did spend lovely time together. And one night, at a karaoke show, we kissed again and practically hooked up.
It's not what either of us expected but we both knew we had feelings for each other...feelings we were afraid to show or admit.

And now I ask you: can best friends really become part of a great relationship?
As I see it, the advantages are clear: you know each other and trust each other. You most likely have a lot of common friends, as well. However, you can easily get bored (although discovering a new face of your friend is adorable)... or you can realize it won't work and getting back to "just friends" could be ...awkward, to say the least.

If you've fallen for your best (male) friend, ladies, do talk to them. Men don't exactly read the correct signs. For example, a friend I like said that he though I've fallen for him..No, I just like him and care for him. So yeah, tell them exactly what you feel /think. But be prepared for rejection (if possible with a smile on your face).

It's wonderful when you both realize that you are, indeed, in love ...........

friends turning in to a lovers...........love back out as a friendship.

Not that long ago we've been more than friends
so much more than friends
we've been lovers back then

after two decades of being best friends
somehow we thought after a while
we'd be meant for each other

it had been perfect
but it's hard to remind myself
it was perfect

until one day you went away
you said you needed to go away
to help someone and you did

you wrote me letters and everything was fine
but we didn't see each other very often then
and we drifted apart

the daily phonecalls turned into monthly letters
and monthly letters turned into
4 time-a-year letters

and when all the I love you's at the end of every one
didn't turn into I love you more anymore
it just returned as I love you

then it became just love you
and after a certain time
it was just with love, your

and then your best

and in the end we again
were at your best friend

yea after all this it had returned
to best friend again instead
of lover or sweetheart

I knew it wouldn't work that way
and I was scared of loosing you
and in the end I was right

'cause I did

you came back someday
just like before you left

but I lost you
not physically
but mentally

and well I saw you everyday
but it was different
and then one day you came into work

but not alone
someone was with you

and you introduced her as your girlfriend

I smiled but I wasn't happy
and I am sure you weren't either
but it wasn't what mattered

you had a new one
and she couldn't read you the way I did
she didn't know that you just pretended to be happy

but I knew you weren't

I was shocked as I shook her hand
but I pretended to be happy

I saw that glimpse of happiness in her eyes
and in yours too
but yours hadn't the sparks in them I used to see back then

I never told you I wasn't happy for you
and you didn't tell me either
so we both went apart from each other

drifting even more away from one another

but neither of us cared to tell the other one
what he really feels

and so we just let our love fade away
just like our friendship did in the last two decades

I have always been the one of us

who wanted to talk about everything
and when I didn't want
you talked me into talking to you

but when you were my reason
that I didn't want to talk about
and I was yours

then we didn't find anyone to talk to
'cause you have always been the one listening to me
and I was the one listening to you

and now we both ended up crying
not willing someone to know
crying ourselves into sleep

and dreaming of memories we had
and of those we could have had
if things had turned out to be different

and we had had the courage to talk to each other

two weeks into your new relationship
I caught you in your office deep in thoughts

staring at a blank white paper

seeing you this way I knew what I had to do
and when I layed my heart on the table between us

you told me that you never loved anyone else
and from that moment on I knew we were meant to be

and yes well the I love you's in our letters

turned into best friend once before
but after all you are so much more to me than
just the one I love

after all you are still my best friend
which doesn't mean that you aren't my lover and partner and my life too
it just means that you're my world

and that I'm lost without you

 

but when your eyes say it
I know that you still love me and always will

.............that's how we have complied the journey from friends to lover and again a friend.................